Of Pants & Crop Tops

Okay…you are walking in full swag in your awesome crop top paired with a tank (Coz you are too shy to expose your belly!) and brand new Van Heusen pants(trousers) down the hallway…and a classmate laughs and asks “Haha…you stole your niece’s top?”

And what’s worse is that the guys around laugh with him!

You look at him incredulously and say “It’s a crop top!”

And the guys look at you as if you landed from Mars!

I thought, seriously?! You guys don’t know a crop top?

I mean, it’s like the rage all over!

Well…that’s one type of guy I’ve met. The Mr Ignorant.

They have no idea what the latest fashion is, smirk and mock those who wear a halter neck or crop top. Funny thing is they sometimes look at trends as a horrifying.

Eg: Girl is wearing a racerback tank for an off-shoulder top. Guy keeps staring at her during the whole class. At the end of the class, he somehow tries to tactfully say something to her. She doesn’t get his hints when he just openly says…”You know, you should buy fitting tops coz your camisole was always visible. You know…” and she stares dumbstruck at him.

I was there when this happened and I could not control my laughter. I just walked away because I was not able to control it!

On the other extreme, you have Mr Know-It-All, he’s the one you should really watch out for. Because, if that person is your friend, you will get non-stop fashion advice on why you shouldn’t ruin that wonderful dress with calf-high boots but rather with an ankle length boot! If he happens to be your better half, then it is worse! You have a nightmare just imagining shopping with him. Earlier, it would be a random, fun event. Now, you either go shopping under his duress or try to escape without him!

Eg: Guy and his girlfriend walk into a lingerie shop. (Yes…yes…i know…). He suggests that she try on certain things. She smiles smugly at our envy and strolls into the changing room. She calls out to him to check it out. He exclaims loudly how that piece doesn’t suit her but rather she should go for something else. He means no harm, he just wants her to look great in something that she can really pull off but she had her eye set on something that genuinely didn’t suit her. So, he tries to convince her. He reasons with her extolling why her figure didn’t carry it off! She was so embarrassed and we felt kinda bad for her. And he kept on going so sincerely too…


Don’t know why I thought I’d share this! Enjoy the funny moments you’ll have with your friends. I’m sure we all have witnessed something similar before.

🙂 😀


Spaces & Circles

Many of us have these degrees of friendship we have with many people.

I find it particularly inadequate when you describe friends to other friends.

There are only 3 words that I usually use – colleagues, classmates, friends.

But it is not enough. Even in colleagues I have someone I like more, talk more than others, classmates that are more than classmates but less than friends, friends who are very nice and you talk frequently but not hang out always and of course there is the special distinction of a best friend you usually give to one person.

Recently, in an argument with my 2 closest (best) friends from UG, I was accused of taking one person’s side more than the other’s. Although it was a lame disagreement, and we made up soon enough, it made me think. I started analysing all the friendships I had.

I found there are levels or degrees of friendship. Even in best-friend-dom! (This is not actually a word)

You have various circles you interact in.

  1. The acquaintances : Those you have met once or meet rarely but have a rapport with. They can either be from your workplace or some other company but have had the chance of meeting purely due to work/club activity/associations.
  2. The work friends : The ones you see daily. You regularly talk to them, have small talk, exchange bits of info/harmless gossip.
  3. The work friends from other depts/people you know from your college but not your class/dept : You know them, you see them, say hi-bye, talk occasionally but do not know much. That’s the extent of your friendship.
  4. Your classmates : You see them daily, when in college, but you need not talk to them as much. You just share information when needed but maintain a cordial relationship
  5. Your hangout circle/The gang : The ones you always are seen with. You travel, go on trips, have regular meetups, have a fav spot etc etc with them.
  6. Your close friends/best friends : The ones you dream with, you call in the midnight, fight with more than usual, lean on etc  etc

But the funny thing is the space you share with each one of them is different. I once read somewhere that a person shows a different side to different people.

Even among my closest friends, the spaces I share with them are totally different. What I am with M and what I am with A and what I am when both M & A are present are 3 different things. Those 3 spaces are kept different and sometimes when you find them overlapping or that the spatial diameter has changed, it tilts the balances.

And I’m not saying that’s a good thing or that it is a bad thing. Sometimes, these spaces evolve. M & I have found that there are certain things we allow for in the M, A and me space. When A is not there, the space we share is something else.

I’m not sure if I sound like I’m spouting gibberish. But, I think it makes sense somehow. I’ll try putting it in a different manner.

See, there’s always that friend you can talk to about novels. The other one who gawks at hot guys with you. The one who you always irritate and the one whom irritates you. The one who was there at a crucial time and the one you always turn to when you want to just chat. There is also the one on whom you just lean on and the one who starts talking to ease your anger. There is the one whom you think of as your little sister, there is the one who you look up to. There is also another one who just discusses music with you and the one who cracks dirty jokes. Then you have one who is equally crazy as you, and the one who sits by you without a word enjoying the breeze.

See, there are levels.

There are spaces you share with the circle of friends you have. It’s not necessary that all be done with the same person.

Hm…food for thought!