In one of my random ramblings, I thought to myself – Would I be the good cop or bad cop?
I mean…if I could choose I’d definitely be the bad cop.
If there’s something I’m good at, then it would be using a sharp tone and a brusque manner.Unfortunately, a serious countenance enhances that!
This kinda made things funny when I had to pose as a recruiter to my classmate and asked..no…shot questions at him. My professor just came up to me during feedback time and said “You were too serious. You need to build up to the question”
I understood exactly what she meant cause I had been lamenting to myself that I was not exactly the world’s most tactful person. In fact, I’m so removed from tact that I wince at myself for blurting out things.
Hehe…some days I’m so socially awkward that I blabber, wave my hands around enthusiastically and have absolutely no control over my pitch.
Well….what I can say? Meh!
I think this nervousness comes out of the thought that I don’t know what to say and when to say. I mean, if it was upto me, I’d say that you say things outright but polite. No need of beating around the bush. But, it won’t flow like that.
I can readily admit that being a good conversationalist requires practice and lots of reading. However, there is also the fact that sometimes, you might not have the right crowd around you. Ever had the feeling that no matter what good idea or topic you speak about, people don’t have a clue about it but at the same time, you don’t have a choice but to spend your college days or work days with them that you need to speak to them on whatever topics they talk about.
And I find that frustrating, honestly.
I’ll be more interested in talking about trips, places, something generic but I have had people talk to me mostly about other people and gossips. Hm….
Well, I won’t say that not knowing who has done what is good but at the same time, there are times when you are at complete ease and carry on a conversation for hours with a select group of people and you actually feel intellectually happy!
Most often, it is difficult to find friends like that or to surround yourself with people like that. But, don’t hesitate. It’ll be a great relief to you and your brain!
I read somewhere that surrounding yourself with business-minded people would make you successful. Well, I’d say that surrounding yourself with intellectually stimulating conversation make you successful!