These are not your typical friendships. You reveal only one side to each one of them. And you are not in a friendship where you share it all or where they are your best buddies.
These are the people who are your friends but not friends, acquaintances but more than that. They might stay in your life for a short time or you might meet them only occasionally. But they make you up and build you up in ways you wouldn’t know.
Whether it be someone you see every day or someone you meet in a situation – there are still categories you can put them in…to understand how they fit into your life in the larger scheme of things…and you remember them years later and smile to yourself and say “Oh yeah…”.
- The one-time clickers :
Sounds weird…but it’s true. You meet someone, a stranger, and you just click with that person. You have hours of conversation and laugh and talk about something you haven’t thought of in a long while. You talk about that 10-year-old assassination, your first novel, a strange distant land, your gardening adventures, pillow fabrics..whatever. It doesn’t matter. You talk for so long and laugh so loud that passersby look and admire. Then someone stops by and asks how long have you guys been friends and you say ‘We just met today’.
But the best and the worst part?
You never meet them again, despite the world being so connected. And you think of it as a serendipitous occasion.
- The head-nod acquaintances :
Who are these people? The ones you see every day – at work, a neighbour, at yoga class, at the coffee shop. You see them every day or almost every day and, at first you start off with familiar nods at the face. Sometimes, it becomes a friendship but sometimes it stays there. You both nod and smile at each other and that’s it.
- The office coffee-mates:
The ones you meet over coffee. Casual talk and exchange of gossip. Catching up with each others’ lives.
- The glass-mates:
The ones you want to go to the pub with, the ones who can handle your weird/dry/sarcastic/crazy/dirty sense of humor when you’re a bit sloshed and whom you can trust to take you as you are. These are friends who you can go to for a pick-me-up time and unleash your wild side and not judge you for that. 🙂
- The big sis/bro:
You have the utmost respect for them and you think of them as your personal advisor and go-to person for any serious life decision. You ask them to help you keep your perspective and make things clearer for you. They advise you, they review you, they become your sounding board.
- The silent partner:
The one whom you would want to spend time with in silence. If you feel too crushed, if you feel you’re losing it, you just show up at their place and they invite you in into their home without a question. You either sit and enjoy a book as they continue their work, or you sleep on their couch the whole day, maybe both of you might just sit in front of the TV all day munching on snacks.
For now, I can only think of these kinds of friends you’d have in your life. I’m sure there are more…
Lemme know in the comments below 🙂